this should be a cold take, im just posting it here just cause. literally nothing matters besides how you are gendered irl/what people you know irl say about you.

photos will always be inaccurate do to changes in lighting, angle, how lens distortion and mirror reflections change things. people online can give you a general idea of your potential, but a photo will always just be a flat, unmoving snap shot of a 3d person in movement.

determining if you pass or not based on what random troons say to you is beyond retarded. and as much as i doom about never malefailing, obviously boy/manmoding isnt going to help you get gendered female. not to mention that if you are gendered after speaking and you dont voicepass, obviously youre not gonna be gendered right.

    • AlexOP
      4·
      15 days ago

      this still applies to you miss “i dont remember the last time a stranger misgendered me”. though you arent being bdd rn so youre fine. ily diana

      • DesiresAreGrey
        2·
        15 days ago

        ik i accept i pass and i especially accept my voice passes (ive been very voicebrained lately), however i am ugly though and nothing irl has happened that suggests otherwise (only online)

        • AlexOP
          4·
          15 days ago

          i get it more than anyone that comments online dont really help without irl affirmation to back it up. i do think youre really pretty still though. have you tried putting yourself out there at all?

          • DesiresAreGrey
            3·
            15 days ago

            not really, plus i’ve gained like 40 pounds after ffs cause of how depressed i got/still am. i haven’t been trying as much lately tbh idk i kinda feel depressed. the only thing i have confidence about lately is my voice which is something people can fairly judge online especially during calls so like after being told it passes and it’s attractive and even having kids on apex tell me i sound like a streamer i have some confidence about voice idk

  • cowLe Monade B
    2·
    15 days ago

    I will use this take in my computer to make sure it doesn’t overheat

  • thrwy809
    2·
    15 days ago

    people irl are less likely to be honest though so i think it’s just not rly possible to know if you pass or not in general

  • RabbitHoleGirly
    1·
    15 days ago

    Yeah but I live in a liberal enough place, that’s it’s all hugboxxing, I swear

    • AlexOP
      2·
      15 days ago

      strangers arent hugboxxing you. most people do not think or care enough about these things to do that

      • RabbitHoleGirly
        2·
        15 days ago

        I present vaguely female enough to be gendered female is what I’m saying… not because I look female, but because of signs of obv trans ness and they’re being polite…?

        Like even if I clock someone, I’ll still gender them female if they’re girlmoding

        • AlexOP
          2·
          15 days ago

          idk, maybe its because of my own experience of where i live but i do not believe the majority of the population really understands how to clock most things. all the cis people i personally know irl do not talk about trans stuff ever. i just find it hard to believe it would go through someones head to bother doing that who isnt also trans.

          • RabbitHoleGirly
            1·
            15 days ago

            Yeah, but a lot of my friends are trans, and I’m scared they clock me sometimes