We were drunk together and they told me they’ve been thinking about trying HRT. I didn’t respond the best, because I was also drunk. I was supportive, but maybe a bit too enthusiastic, when they seemed more tentative. When we were both sober, I offered to help them find HRT, but they said they were far too nervous. I want to find a good way to help and support them, without freaking them out or making them uncomfortable. Anyone have good ideas? Maybe just wait until the next time we drink together?

EDIT: I’m a trans man. They were AMAB and haven’t done anything to transition yet. Our friend group is all male, but pretty woke.

  • gleeby deeby
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    1 month ago

    I agree on telling them that the first couple months dont show anything permanent and that diy is safe and pretty common. dont act excited, more like hey theres options for you, I am happy to help you figure things out and listen, and I understand that coming out is a big thing but right now you’re as young as you’re ever gonna be. the more years living as your true self the better. I didn’t know any trans people when I came out and my family was kinda accepting but had no clue what to do and hearing that would’ve saved me a lot of anxiety, wavering and isolation. keep it casual but direct and dont push for answers or a decision right away.