last year in uni, a girl in my group accidentally said “the three point lighting looks really good there around her face” about me when we were doing a film project, and it made me so happy. but i think the most likely scenario is that it was nothing but a slip of the tongue. everyone else in our group were cis women. it makes sense to accidentally use she/her in such a context to me. the only feminine part of my appearence was my women’s glasses. i was literally wearing a black hoodie and i was visible flat.

then last week my mom told me she showed a photo of me to one of her friends who hasn’t seen me before and she said her friend’s initial reaction was to say “what a pretty girl”. i told my mom she was making that up and that its a blatant lie, or that it was anglefrauded and didn’t show how i actually look.