im basibg this on my experiences though. like growing up in a all boys school a lottt of those guys who would claim to be straight or even be violently homophobic were often capable of intense homoeroticism where theyd call each other darling and husband or acts like jerking off together or looking at each other naked or practicing kissing etc. this was allowed because they didnt do it “sincerely” and because they didnt “act gay” and professed that their attraction to women was the only real one. adrienne rich of course argues for women from the opposite perspective. cis people cannot comprehend comphet like how fish cannot comprehend the ocean.
also the argument of sexuality being “biological”- is this even true? i mean gender isnt a clear absolute biologically or socially so why would sexuality be?
youve never seen people acting intensely homoerotic? friends being jealois of another friends partner? the homoeroticism of fascist aesthetic? the sublimation of homosexuality is almost an underpinning of cisheterosexuality, in the same way that the suppression of transsexuality is
idk i feel like alot of the hetero cis people i see online also replicate this stuff. you havent seen the “kissing the homies goodnight?” stuff or stuff where cishet girls are jealous of their besties boyfriend?
im basibg this on my experiences though. like growing up in a all boys school a lottt of those guys who would claim to be straight or even be violently homophobic were often capable of intense homoeroticism where theyd call each other darling and husband or acts like jerking off together or looking at each other naked or practicing kissing etc. this was allowed because they didnt do it “sincerely” and because they didnt “act gay” and professed that their attraction to women was the only real one. adrienne rich of course argues for women from the opposite perspective. cis people cannot comprehend comphet like how fish cannot comprehend the ocean.
also the argument of sexuality being “biological”- is this even true? i mean gender isnt a clear absolute biologically or socially so why would sexuality be?
Ok but I’ve literally never seen anyone act like that in my entire life, if the majority of people ik are comphet how is that remotely possible
youve never seen people acting intensely homoerotic? friends being jealois of another friends partner? the homoeroticism of fascist aesthetic? the sublimation of homosexuality is almost an underpinning of cisheterosexuality, in the same way that the suppression of transsexuality is
Not really? The only example I can really think of was one girl from my hs but she’s also just a lesbian now
any way were prob not gonna agree on this but thats my theory anyway
idk i feel like alot of the hetero cis people i see online also replicate this stuff. you havent seen the “kissing the homies goodnight?” stuff or stuff where cishet girls are jealous of their besties boyfriend?
Never seen the 2nd thing, the 1st sometimes ig but not super often