My grandparents still view me as heterosexual male 4 years in. Its always super cringe if I visit them with my cis bf because they will call me by my deadname and see me as male and him somehow as female and somehow struggle to not call him a female variation if his name. Its fucking awful. The silver lining is that he doesn’t speak German, so he isn’t really able to understand what is said. I still love my grandparents but interacting with them feels very hurtful a lot of the time even alone without him